Feeling Necessary

Humans don’t mind hardship, in fact they thrive on it; what they mind is not feeling necessary. Modern society has perfected the art of making people not feel necessary.

Sebastian Junger, Tribe

Power, influence, & opportunity flow toward those who can make others feel necessary. That’s the paradox: to become important, you must first make others feel important.

Coaches of all stripes are in a position to realize this, though few see that as part of the job description. That’s too bad because their students will accomplish so much more once they believe they are capable of being so much more.

Some people are gifted with the ability to convince themselves of their own necessity & capacity. The rest of us often need a push.

Patrick Cummings